How You Gon’ Win When You Ain’t Right Within?
Happy New Year, Pretty Girl Gang!
We all know the top of the year is for setting goals and ideally keeping them. But, before you get started on your career, fitness, business, financial, and relationship goals, I want you to consider moving self-development to the top of the list. Because as the title of this post says - how you gon’ win when you ain’t right within?
Let’s talk forreal - could it be you’re not where you wanna be not because you’re not posting, networking, or grinding enough, not even because you’re out of purpose, but because…you’re toxic? And maybe things aren’t flowing how they should because you’re clogged up with bad vibes?
And yes I’m talking to YOU with the great corporate job, or YOU with the ideal family, or YOU that’s traveling the world, or YOU that’s the IG influencer, and even YOU with the body goals. Because we all know you can have these things and still feel unfulfilled. And this year, it’s time to be real with ourselves and admit that we’re lacking.
As always, I speak on things so passionately because I’ve experienced it firsthand. You can read about my breakdown after realizing I was toxic right here. And coincidentally I was in a very stagnant season of my business up until this point. Except it wasn’t a coincidence. However, it was ironic because to the outside world, things looked pretty good. But YOU know right now (like I knew back then) that things are off.
So I took the time and did the real work to confront my toxic self and now things are back in alignment. I kid y’all not - I’d been looking for help for 2+ years and within the last 2 weeks, help from MULTIPLE women has found me. That’s just one example of the flow that’s been re-released into my life.
So how do you know you got some toxic femininity coursing through your veins? I’m glad you asked :)
Hyper-independent - keep saying you don’t need help and none will come to you.
On the other end of the spectrum, if you’re always in a crisis and you always need help, you gotta evaluate your life sis. At this point, you may have poor-decision making.
You’re in a situationship. Because why do that to yourself?
Overly apologetic when it’s ok to stand on what you said, respectfully.
If you’re easily offended as in you’re calling me names right now😆 - toxic lol. Which means you’re likely unteachable and that’s a dangerous place to be.
Whew! I just re-read myself with some of these lol. But that’s why here at Pretty Powerful, self-love and respect is where we start. It’s hard to build something stable on a shaky foundation.
I’m excited to unpack this list and get into a few more toxic traits so meet me on my IG page @jessfinesse THIS Friday, Jan 6 at 7 pm for the first Free Tee Friday of the year! Because survey says y’all wasn’t feeling the previous time of 1:30 lol.
In the meantime, do you see/have you seen any of these traits in yourself? After course correcting, did your quality of life get better? Feel free to share below!
